Monday, 1 March 2010

When Real Life Takes Over

I spend a lot of time wanting to write, and feeling frustrated that I just don't have the time to do so, what with the children, the house (and a husband) to look after. Then suddenly things become *really* hectic in the 'real world', and I know I have to just give in to reality and put everything on hold. Now is one of those times. I won't bore you with the details, but let's just say that time on my own, with nothing else pressing for attention, is currently zero.

I have had to accept the fact that March will be a month for things other than writing. There is no alternative but to give in to this fact.

Having said that, mentally accepting that, and taking the pressure off, has had one good result. Whilst tidying up the kitchen last night, a new plot idea for one of my WIP's jumped into my head. A good one. I think if I can use some time to form more ideas in my head, then April may be one of my best writing months ever.


  1. I can certainly relate to that with a husband who has been in and out of hospital lately. Also I think you can sometimes spend too much time writing and not enough time allowing the ideas to mature in the mind. How lovely that you have an idea maturing. Don't forget to write it down because no matter how much we think we'll remember, we won't!

  2. I can so relate to this!

    I think you've done the right thing by acknowledging that real life is going to take over this month. If you hadn't done that, then it's possible that guilt about not writing would have eaten away at you and that is neither healthy or helpful.

    Besides, if it's already allowed you time to think things through and come up with a new approach for your WIP, then you're not really having a non-writing month as such. I honestly believe that I need time to ponder and think things out and that time spent doing just that is never wasted and as valuable as putting pen to paper or fingers to keyboard. Like Rosalind says, though, it's only useful if you write it down.

    Don't beat yourself up about this month and happy pondering!

  3. I know exactly what you mean. We beat ourselves up about not being able to do everything and sometimes it is better just to succumb to the facts and give ourselves to the most pressing things in our lives. And the subconscious is always swirling. As the others said, you can still be writing in your head and sometimes its a very good thing to stop producing and let things simmer.

  4. Hi, totally agree with Alison, sometimes it's better to take time off, whether it's forced time off or voluntary. Hopefully April will be one of your best writing months...

  5. At times we have to give into the real world. It can benefit our writing though, we get out and about to find new things to create.

    Enjoy March with your family and happy scribbling.

  6. A break is as good as a rest, so they say. Whoever they are. Take the time and when you come back to it, you will be refreshed and ready to scribble your little heart out. Take care.

  7. Oh dear. I do hope all is ok, or is going to be ok.

    Life does indeed have a way of dumping everything on you at once. A couple of years ago we had our own personal annus horribilis; a death in the family, illness, miscarriages, my husband landing himself in a wheelchair for three months.

    Certainly I had no free time during that period, but my brain was frantically busy. Eventually, out of that time, came the first ever full, complete novel I've ever written.

    Good luck, and I hope you have a very productive April. :)

  8. Sounds like you are just going with the flow...and I find that is always a good strategy.. less stress. I also find that when immersed in repetitive housework I am very grounded and can connect easily to my creative self. So cherish this time of nurturing and growing ideas and I look forward to seeing what April brings!